5 Lessons You Learn From Falling Out Of Love

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I was 19 when I first fell in love. I was 22 when I looked him straight in the eye and felt nothing. I couldn’t conjure up any single emotion. No anger, no hatred, no resentment, no sadness and – most noticeably – no love.

No one really tells you how to prepare for falling out of love. Maybe that’s because it’s such a depressing, glass-is-half-empty thing to talk about. Everybody wants to talk about falling in love because it’s magical and pretty and when you finally experience it, it’s like you’ve been granted membership to some secret society that seemingly everyone else already belongs to.

What they don’t tell you, of course, is staying in that society takes a lot of effort and perseverance – more than any love novice is capable of comprehending. And sometimes, despite your strongest attempts to keep a love afloat, it just doesn’t work…

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The Local Library: Home Of The Last True Alternative Crowd

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I only went there to get my tax forms. Though I’ve lived in the neighborhood of Cleveland Park for almost seven years now, I think the last time I went to the library was to return a book so many years overdue they’d removed it from the system (one easy way to evade late fees). But that was years ago.

It’s funny how reluctant we act when faced with unfamiliar territory, particularly places where we know we should feel welcome, but never visit.  I’m shy about asking the librarian for a 1040.  But after my stealth corner-of-the-eye glances around the main room — trying not to look like I didn’t know what I was doing – merit nothing, I meekly walk up to the librarian.  She looks busy.

“Do you have 1040 forms. . .?” I could tell she knows my type. Only there for a purpose, get the goods…

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5 Activities That Are So Much More Fun When You Shut Off Your Phone

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1. Reading a book.

Personally, I think one of the best things in the world is getting completely immersed in a good book. I am not ashamed to admit I’ve spent many nights (even occasional weekend nights) at the nearest bookstore with a hot cup of coffee and a good book. Yes, this is partially because I’m cheap and didn’t want to buy the book. But the point is escaping into another world via literature is awesome. Why in the heck would you want to interrupt that with the constant buzzing of your iPhone?!

2. Sleeping.

Yes, this sounds ridiculous. Obviously your sleep is going to be enhanced by turning off your phone. But haven’t you ever taken a nap and been abruptly awakened by your phone ringing? I know it’s hard for me to shut off my phone when I take an afternoon power nap, but it’s even…

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12 Things You Are Doing To Sabotage Your Future

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I have mentored, counseled, encouraged, discouraged, hired and fired hundreds of people over the past 25 years. Oftentimes failure is less about a lack of talent or ability, and more about self sabotage. These are frequent road blocks I see in people, myself included.

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1. You are lazy.

Most of us default to indolence. We take the easy way. We get comfortable. We like a routine. This may be fine for 90%. If you are reading this, I suspect it’s not fine for you. So get off your ass and get started.

2. You lack focus.

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You start out great. You spend thirty minutes of uninterrupted time putting together a plan, making a list, and polishing your resume, so you decide to take a break. You check Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, your friend’s blog, Game of Thrones, iTunes, etc. and two hours later you’re back…

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